The Axiomatic Musings of a Teen who is a friend.

One of my other friends, Joe, just went through a break up too. Lovely time of year, huh?

And i've been talking to him. Over Facebook, because he moved to Japan last summer. I knew him mostly through Sal and Fred, and he's a very nice kid. He hated me for virtually no reason for the first few months he met me, but we've come to an understanding and are now very nice to each other.
That's why when i heard about him and his girlfriend, I inboxed him to tell him I was here for him. I told him about Sal and I (he hadn't heard, and he seemed as upset about it as i was) and he told me what happened with his girlfriend. She said she "wasn't ready for a boyfriend" and seemed like she wanted Joe to wait. I replied to Joe this:
"it's cruel of kylie to ask you to do that. focus on your own happiness in the meantime, joe. if something happens and she's ready for you later, and you are too, maybe it'll work out. if not, then just be happy on your own account."

....then I realized that's the exact same advice Fred has been giving me for the past few days. In a way, Joe and I are kinda in the same boat, where both of our signifo's (me-speak for significant others) still want to be friends, but don't want to be in a relationship right now. And what I told him is exactly what I need to be doing. It's hard, definitely, because I feel a tad hypocritical because I can't stop thinking about Sal and it's destroying me, but i realize that maybe I should be practicing what I preach. If i can show Joe that I can be happy, then maybe he'll know that there's hope too. It's all I can do right now to try and enjoy my vacation, i just can't freaking stop thinking, about him, about what could have been, about why, about how unfair it is to me...I'm going into a kind of angry phase now, where I feel angry at him that he made me so upset I can't enjoy my vacation, that he's fine at home while i'm miserable, that he expects me to just forget it all and be friends. But I can't really be angry at him because most of that is my state of mind, too. So maybe I'll follow my own advice and focus on my own happiness, say screw him, and maybe it'll work. It's a logical solution, that's why I advised it to Joe.

Maybe the best way to get advice is to give it to other people.
Maybe the best way to help yourself is to help a friend.

♪: "Broken Heart" by Motion City Soundtrack (a very honest break up song, not exactly cheery but relatable)
♫: "Lost In Your Own Life" by Alexa Vega. I'm here for ya, Joe.

[[apologies for not embedding the music in posts right now, I don't have the time to search and embed right now. i'll get back to it once i get back home]]