See, Ash and I both have issues with our exes. His is clingy and bitchy and Sal is immature and spiteful. Now, see, that shouldn't matter, because we don't need our exes, we have each other.
But they don't seem to get that.
See, I've had issues with She-Voldemort before. She's tried to break us up, she's made it quite clear she hates me, etc, etc. But after a couple incidents and I got totally fed up, Ash expelled her from his life for good. She's tried getting to talk to him again (even recently, she'll come up to him and be like "I miss us talkinggg" and he just tells her to get a life.) and it doesn't make me afraid or anything, I know Ash has no feelings for her, but she still makes me nervous. She's a senior too, which doesn't help.
Which brings us to Ex-AHC Type One: The silent but deadly. See, She-Voldemort doesn't go out of her way to irritate me. She just glares, or brushes into me, or hangs out talking to her sister where we hang out in the morning. So it's nothing outward, but it's just present enough to give me that stomach-sinking feeling...like you know when you're on a roller coaster and you just go down that really big hill and it feels like your stomach just dropped? That's what it's like. Not a fear, just a kind of tension. Not pleasant.
Then, there's Sal. I've been trying so f***ing hard to stay friends, keep it civil, but the jerk refuses to cooperate for more than a week. He'll say something to upset me, I'll get pissed, call him out on it, things will be okay, and then he'll do it again. And trust me, this upsets Ash just as much as it does me. He offers to talk to Sal for me, but of course that would make it worse so I tell him to just chill. Ash knows he doesn't have to worry about me having feelings for Sal (god knows i most certainly do NOT.) but he IS worried that someone (no matter who it is) is upsetting me this frequently. He just doesn't know how to react, because of Sal's position. Ash isn't a vengeful guy or anything, and he does try to be cool to Sal, but with Sal changing his opinion of me so frequently, it's impossible for him to know how to act.
Ergo, Ex-AHC Type Two: The Katy Perry. You know the song "Hot and Cold" by Katy? That's what it's like. Sal is friendly one minute, and a jackass the next. So sometimes Ash will try and say "hey" in the halls, because Sal is one of my friends. But Sal has been known to either say "hey" back, or just completely not acknowledge him at all. Or just like the look, approach, look away. So, as the name suggests, it is quite awkward.
There are other Types, not necessarily with Exes, but with a new signifo. Like my friends haven't exactly been overly welcoming towards Ash (as Sal's friends they all take his side) but he's still trying. My girlfriends have been a lot better about it, Rayne has been really nice to him and my other best girlfriend Cissa went from hating him (because of an untrue rumor) to really liking him now. And there aren't a lot of people she actually likes xD. So Ash is okay with that, but he's still trying to find a middle ground with my other friends. I've been doing great with his friends, actually, some of them I knew in elementary/middle school so it's cool to hang out with them again, and they all really like me. From the first week I was going out with him I felt totally comfortable saying hello to them, a really nice relief. So yes, there are situations that you can avoid AHC. They're rare xD.
Anyway, I know I don't really give any advice on how to combat AHC, goodness knows I would if I had any, but I hope if you're going, 'OMG ME TOO!' you know that you certainly are not the only one xD. Maybe if we all realize how awkward we're being with each other, we can all just relax, get over ourselves, and be friendly.
Now off to write a history essay :). Have a nice snow day!
♪: "Why Can't We Be Friends?" by War
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