The Axiomatic Musings of a Teen who believes in Girl Code.

So I haven't updated in a while. But stuff has been happening. So hi! :D

Girl Code is quite simple, really. It's just a natural set of rules that governs girls and their friendships. It isn't set in stone anywhere, it's just a natural, "You don't do that" thing. Most of it is common sense.

Stuff like,

-It is your duty to inform another Girl if her necklace clasp is in the front, her tag is sticking out, etc.

-It is perfectly acceptable to request a bathroom buddy.

-When one Girl is dumped, it is your duty to bring her chocolatey or various other sweet things.

-[Generally] hoes before bros.

And, of course, possibly the most important, "Thou shalt not date thy best friend's ex." It's just not okay. It makes things awkward, screws up friendships, and should just generally be avoided.

Unless, apparently, you're Sal and Rayne. The happy couple of 3 weeks.

Now what you're getting here is my dulled down version, because I have cooled off. I specifically haven't posted about this yet because I knew most of this would end up in size 36 caps had I done it when it happened. Honestly, even thinking about it now, I feel angry. But that will just help me make my point.

Just. Don't. Do it.

Basically nothing good has come of it so far. Not only do they make a horribly awkward couple (they don't even sit next to each other at lunch), but they screwed up multiple things. See, firstly, it screwed up me and Sal's "friendship". I mean he's a dick to me. Frequently. For no reason. So that wasn't helping, but we were starting to get to a point where we could tolerate each other. Then throw THIS wrench in the works, and I couldn't even go near either him or Rayne for a week. It's just awkward now. It's nothing to do with the fact he's actually in a relationship. Now that I have Ash, I could care less. Sal could be dating ANY OTHER GIRL IN THE WORLD and I'd be nothing but congratulatory. But really?! My best friend?! Is he THAT uncreative?! So yeah. Now it's just making it harder for us to be friends because I hate the relationship he's in. Which sucks.

It also fucked up Rayne and I's friendship. Firstly, once it became obvious she was flirting with him, and hadn't talked to me at all, I got all stressed. She never tells me anything, see, even though we were "best friends". She talks to her mom. Whatever. So once I was seriously freaking out, she finally started talking to me. And we'd chat and I had to be supportive. Now see, this is where the friendship starts falling apart. Of COURSE I knew then that I'd be upset if it happened. But if I had said that, she wouldn't have said 'yes'. And it would have just been putting off the inevitable, meaning more long-term stress for me. So I lied, so we could get this whole thing over with. She was on the rebound so it was bound to happen. (That's probably the main reason, actually, I can't think of any other she'd want to go out with a guy who made me feel the way I did for all those posts over the summer...). Then, once it HAPPENED, I didn't even acknowledge her existence for a week. I stopped hanging out with that posse altogether. It was like she didn't exist to me. Which, honestly, I was quite okay with. I was content to just end the friendship there. In a way, I did.

See, I can't tell her anything anymore. Because if I ever want to confide anything to her, chances are I won't want Sal knowing. But, since they're dating now, I don't really have a choice. It's just a relationship thing. You tell them stuff you hear about your friends, etc. It's expected, so I'm not MAD, it's just sad now. She isn't my best friend anymore, and probably won't be. I mean we'll be nice to each other, I just can't trust her anymore like I did before. C'est domage, mais c'est la vie.

So how does one deal with this? When I sit next to Sal in History and Rayne is still very much a part of that posse and increasingly unavoidable?

Well I've come to an agreement in my head. I can deal with Sal on his own (he's been more tolerable which is nice) and I can deal with Rayne on her own (as more of an acquaintance now). It's just when I see them together that I can't deal. I either avoid them all together, or only acknowledge one by themselves, as if the other isn't there, as if they aren't REALLY a couple and my social framework hasn't REALLY changed all that much. It seems to be working so far. It's just a tough situation, is all, but there's nothing I can do about it at this point.

Thank goodness I have Ash, is all I can say. He has not only been supportive this entire time, but he's introduced me to his friends too, and they're AWESOME. They're couples too, which is great for double-dating. I really like one of his friends, codenamed Tawny, and her boyfriend Jim. They've been dating for like, 2 years, and they're fun :). Tawny's a sweetheart too, we get along really well. So possibly a replacement best girlfriend? We'll see :D.

Basically...honor your sistahs. I mean after being dumped like that by a guy, the last thing any girl needs is THAT. It's just...you just don't DO that!

But you know what? I have Tawny, and I have Ash. And with friends like these, well, who needs enemies? :)

♪: "Fighter" by Christina Aguilera

♫: "The Bird and the Worm" by Owl City (whom i've gotten to be obsessed with xD)