The Axiomatic Musings of a Teen who wants to be a good friend!

You all have that friend.

The one who is happy to tell you allllllll about their problems, their issues, their joys, their stories...then thank you for listening and leave.

What the actual fuck, people.

I made friends with this girl recently and she's great. At first I thought it was awesome that she confided so much stuff to me in such a short space of time...until I realized that's all she did. I think maybe once or twice in the past month she asked how things with me were going. She'll literally IM me like, 'I HAVE A STORY FOR YOU!', tell me all about what happened, I'll comment and whatnot, and then it'll go to an awkward silence with me resorting to making conversation by asking more questions about her rather than her asking me, "and how was your day?" Sure, I have stories too, but I don't want to just be that guy who's like, 'WELL, that's great, but guess what happened to ME...' That's just rude. It just sucks that so much has been going on lately that I could have used a good friend for and would have been relieved to talk to her about...but she never asked, and I'd feel whiny for volunteering it. At one point she had been going on this whole long poor-me scenerio about this guy she likes (who's obviously flirting with her back but she denies it) but instead of trying to "be there" and placate her yet again I just stopped her like, "Look, there's a whole bunch of really bad shit going on at home right now and I just heard the garage door opening which is a really bad sign so I need to go." And signed off. (That actually wasn't a lie, either.) But anyway I thought maybe she'd get the message then that other people have problems besides her that maybe she could try to be more sensitive to. But nevertheless the next day she texted me because she was "miserable" because she has little scars on her face. That I've never even noticed. But she was having a panic attack about for being "gross" when she's one of the prettiest people I've ever known. I didn't even know what to say at that point. I mean she's a sweetheart and everything but just like...look around sometimes. There's more to this than you.
So I retreated back inside my shell and have all but given up on getting into any sort of deeper friendship with her. She's almost as bad as Cissa. Ash was friends with  her too, he warned me about this, but I didn't pay attention. Whatever.

Whereas, there are friends like Sal, who make an effort to actually ask me how my day was, or if I had fun at the college fair with him and my other friends, or even Ash does that as well. It's such a nice change. I always make an effort to ask them in return because I know how nice it is to be on the receiving end of it. It's a simple question but it might just give someone a chance to really get something off their chest.

So, my darling readers, I'm asking you: How was your day? Genuinely, I want to know :). Leave a comment, anonymously or not, and I promise I'll read it and reply!

Have a nice night :).

P.S. To anyone else that's been doing college visits as well, talk to me after vacation so we can compare notes! I was at Northeastern this morning, I loooooved it :D. I know a friend of mine who got accepted there (And I think he might be going? Not 100% sure on that) so I'm gonna ask him if he thinks I'd have a shot at getting in :).

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