I just don't understand people sometimes.
I've been hearing a lot lately about cheating and lying. People insist that I'm cheating, or Ash is cheating. (We aren't.) And just recently Tawny was having an issue with John where she had reason to believe he's been talking to the ex she hates behind her back for months now. It's just like...ugh.
If you love someone, love them and be with them. If you don't, break up with them and move on. Okay?
The first time Sal and I broke up, it was because I had gotten bored of him, and had started liking another guy in Bright Lights that year. Sal was just not interesting or exciting to me, whereas this new guy had that whole new-crush-rush thing going on. That happens to couples, I get that. But I didn't act on it, is the thing. I told Sal how I was feeling and when things still didn't really improve, we broke up. I continued to crush on the other guy for a few more weeks, that burned out, and eventually we got back together (luckily for me).
But like, without sounding too up-myself, that's how it's supposed to work. If you lose feelings for someone, break up with them. THEN explore new possibilities. If it turns out you still miss the first person, if you're lucky it'll still work out. Otherwise, it's your own stupid fault anyway.
I just can't comprehend cheating. I feel like it's the greediest thing you can do in a relationship. Cuz at it's root, its wanting to have your cake, eat it too, and then still want more cake. You're telling the person that they just aren't enough for you. Even if they're doing everything perfectly, they aren't doing it enough, so you want someone else too. Or even worse, they're doing it perfectly and enough, you just want something different too. And instead of being fair and going after whatever it is do you really want, you want to have both so you hurt the original person that never did anything wrong. Like that's just so selfish, how could you hurt someone that loves you that way?! Like I said: unfathomable. So like when Tawny called me on Saturday really angry and upset telling me about all these wall-to-walls or whatever she found that gave her reason to think John had been talking to his ex for months, I just couldn't believe it. Like why would he even want to do something like that, Tawny's an amazing girl and she loves him like crazy and I can't imagine why he'd want anything more. As it turns out, he still claims nothing was going on and Tawny accepted that but I would imagine she's still a little shaky to trust him (sound familiar? :P). It's just such a shame that this is even a plausible situation.
But it IS, cuz I mean it's been happening since forever, "thou shalt not commit adultery" is in the friggin commandments. But people still want to and they do. It just sucks. I don't know why it's so hard for people in love to just stay in love with each other. Why do people have to get greedy and risk everything?
The saddest thing is that because it's so prevalent, people find it hard to believe that two people CAN just be happy in a relationship with each other. Hence the rumors about Ash or I cheating. We're actually in love and happy about it, is that really so hard to believe? That people assume, "Oh, they've been together for so long, one of them MUST be getting bored of the other." We actually aren't. So stop with the rumors and have a little faith. Bleh. Just be honest, people, you owe it to the people around you.
BUT ANYWAY on a happier and unrelated note life is actually going really well for me at the moment :). I had a wonderful night at the carnival with my friends and Ash, and he's just been really sweet and affectionate lately so I'm just constantly in a wonderful mood :). And it's fall! As autumn's #1 fan, I'm officially calling it. I love this season :D :D :D.
So yeah, I'll hopefully get some more inspiration for more new posts more frequently :P. It's not that i forgot about you guys, I just don't wanna have like, posts just for the sake of it, I wanna make sure each thing is something that's happened recently that I really feel strongly about. So be patient :).
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Sunday, September 12, 2010
The Axiomatic Musings of a Teen who's generally honest, which is apparently rare now or something?
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Geek in the Pink
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Sunday, September 12, 2010
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4 musings in reply:
If someone is cheating on someone else, then they don't love the other person anyway. In their eyes, the relationship might as well be over and the only reason they would come back and apologize is because they feel bad about hurting their significant other but that doesn't quite matter as much anymore. And are you SURPRISED that honesty is rare? XDDDD
I know, and that's a shame. I don't know what makes that love stop and become directed to someone else :\.
And no. No, I'm really not xD. I guess I'm just not used to it because i'm so brutally honest with people :P.
If it does go away it was never love in the first place. Love seems so final and absolute, so if someone decides "Oh, nevermind, that other person is hotter" then they were just infatuated, not in love.
ehhhh idk about that. i mean i'm a hopeless romantic: i want to believe that love is final and absolute. but i just don't think it always works out that way, sadly :(. i think love can change from romantic to just deep caring, i've seen that much happen.
BUT i believe you're right about the infatuation vs. love thing. if someone breaks up with someone else just because they want someone else more, then they didn't love the first person. its a lust/love thing i think.
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